Teen Dating Violence

You are not alone.

top 10 Warning signs

1. Checks your cell phone or email without your permission.  Constantly texts you
2. Constant put-downs or name calling
3. Gets mad if you talk to other boys/girls
4. Makes all the decisions on how to spend money
5. Criticizes your friends/family.  Discourages you from spending time with them
6. Explosive temper and/or mood swings where little things set him/her off
7. Physically hurting you (hit, punch, slap, etc.)
8. Wants all your attention and time
9. Tells you what to do
10.  When you have an argument, you're always wrong

Teen Dating Violence Quizzes

Tools

How do you deal with digital drama?

Take the quiz from AThinLine.com (MTV's Digital Abuse Website)

Teen Dating Violence Facts and Figures

Teen dating violence (sometimes referred to as unhealthy relationships or abuse) occurs when one person in an intimate relationship exercises power and control over the other through a pattern of intentional behaviors, including psychological, emotional, physical and sexual abuse. 

There is no “typical” victim of teen dating violence – it can affect anyone from any socioeconomic, demographic, geographic or educational background. The greatest risk factor for victimization is simply being a woman.   

Violent relationships in adolescence can have serious ramifications for victims: Many will continue to be abused in their adult relationships and are at a higher risk for substance abuse, eating disorders, risky sexual behavior, and suicide.

1 in 5 teens who have been in a serious relationship report being hit, slapped or pushed by a partner.

 1 in 4 teens who have been in a serious relationship say their boyfriend or girlfriend has tried to prevent them from spending time with friends or family; the same number have been pressured to only spend time with their partner.

1 in 3 teens reports knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped or physically hurt by a partner.

45% of girls know a friend or peer who has been pressured into having either intercourse or oral sex

 While most people are able to recognize an abusive relationship when it involves physical violence, relationships involving psychological or emotional abuse are more subtle, but no less destructive. It is important to recognize key characteristics of domestic violence so that abuse can be stopped before it becomes life threatening.  

Dating violence is not a one time occurrence, it escalates over time.

The progression of violence is outlined below, and includes repeated use of one or more of the following behaviors:

 Verbal Abuse:
  • Name-calling
  • Put downs
  • Yelling
  • Use of profanity
  • Unfounded accusations
  • Cruel and hurtful remarks
  • Degrading the victim in public
  • Diminishing accomplishments
  • Flying into rages
Physical Abuse:
  • Choking/Strangulation
  • Holding the victim down against their will
  • Throwing or breaking objects
  • Pushing
  • Shoving
  • Slapping
  • Biting
  • Punching
  • Kicking
  • Using a weapon
  • Murder
Emotional Abuse:
  • Isolation
  • Ignoring
  • Controlling what friends you hang out with
  • Lack of trust/Suspicion
  • Following or stalking
  • Criticizing your clothes, makeup, and friends
  • Threats of suicide
  • Threats of physical violence
  • Threats of murder
  • Minimizes or denies behavior, explosive or critical reactions
Sexual Abuse:
  • Rape
  • Forcing unwanted sexual acts
  • Use of weapons during sex
  • Forced sex involving multiple partners
  • Inflicts pain during sex

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